Even if you entered the divorce process amicably, dealing with the breakdown of your relationship is never easy, especially if you have children involved. You likely dread breaking the news of your divorce to your children and want to remain a loving, supportive parent.
Above all else happening at the end of your marriage, help your kids before, during and after your divorce by implementing the following child-centered tips in your lives.
1. Plan for family time in your schedule.
Making time for your family in your busy schedule demonstrates to your children that even though their parents are no longer together, a feeling of the family still exists, and they can rely on both adults. If you can maintain a civil relationship with the other parent, try to schedule fun family events such as an occasional movie night, dinner or trip to the park.
2. Do your fair share of childcare.
Do not allow your marital issues to conflict with your children’s regular routine. Although things may not always run smoothly while co-parenting with your ex-spouse, offer extra support when you can. For example, picking up your children from school in case the other parent is late, making timely child support payments and keeping each other updated about issues with your children’s academics or friendships.
3. Refrain from spoiling your children.
In some divorces, parents try to become the favorite caretaker over their ex-spouse. Often, divorced parents try out-buying their children’s love; however, this might backfire if the children start pitting one parent against the other. The potential effect on your children’s mental health is not worth the extra sweet treats, newest toys and lavish vacations.
Focus on facilitating quality family time to create lasting, loving memories for your children.