Children who are going through their parents’ divorce can have some challenges. When parents only have one child, the issues are a bit different than when there are multiple children. One reason for this is because the parents have likely doted on the child and make the kid the focus of their attention.
Parents can help an only child to adjust to the divorce. Doing this will take a bit of teamwork and some planning, but it is possible. Here are some tips you can use:
Talk to the child together
Even though you and your ex are calling it quits, you are still parents together. You should discuss the divorce with your child together. This gives him or her a chance to ask questions and get answers from both parents. It also gives you and your ex the opportunity to discuss how the new way of life will go. You can talk about the rules that will remain consistent between homes and the expectations for school. Make sure you also remind your child that he or she doesn’t need to choose between parents since both will remain involved in his or her life.
Spend time making memories together
Now that the divorce has been announced, you can start making memories with your child. Try to find activities that both of you will enjoy. Don’t be afraid to try new things just to see how you and your child enjoy them. If you and your ex are co-parenting, inviting your ex to some activities might be a good idea, but remember to keep some of the activities for just you and your child.
Encourage relationships with friends
Your child might think that all social activities are going to stop because of having to split time between two homes. Make sure that you encourage your children to keep up with friends. You and your ex might have to work together to come up with a schedule that will make this possible. Letting your child’s friends’ parents know what is going on can help them to plan for situations that might arise while your child is with them.
Talk to teachers and trusted adults
Teachers and trusted adults need to know about the divorce so they can help your child to work through any potential issues. Let your child know whom you have spoken to so that they know whom they can turn to if they have problems handling the situation.
